‘Never let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game‘
I am a risk taker. I try things. I learned from an early age that if you don’t try something, you won’t know whether you will like it or not. I have took on too much and over stretched myself for as long as I can remember. This is both an excellent quality and an awful quality. I want to do literally everything!
I feel like life is such a blessing, with every breathe, I truly want to seize the day. I grew up very humble. No, poor, I grew up very poor. I have lived in women’s shelters, bounced from home to home and have attended 13 different schools. This has made me the great risk taker I am today. I do not fear losing everything because I have started from nothing.
Whenever I decide whether I want to do something I ask myself. “If the absolute worst thing happened, can I live with the consequences?” If the answer is yes, then I do it! It’s honestly that simple.
When I opened Rosy, I saw not only an opportunity but also a way for me to help a friend whom was very dear to me. I weighed out all the consequences and thought if it didn’t work what would I do? I’d finish out the lease and move the inventory back to Asterisk. I didn’t risk my home, car, family, friendships or original business. And that is when Rosy was born.
It was very hard to open. As many of you in retail know, retail is not just buying and selling. There is a whole other art that goes into opening a business. Maybe one day in another blog post, I will dive into. Even with all the hurdles that occurred, the doors were open for Shop Small Saturday.
The sales were great! The customers were fabulous and the space was everything I had ever hoped for. So what went wrong? There were a lot of little things that were difficult. The two big ones were staffing two store fronts and finding vendors for boys clothes. But ultimately, why did Rosy fail?
It failed because of me.
A small business is more then just a business. It comes down to a person. I learned some things very quickly about myself.
The first and biggest was I did not want to give up another year of being with my child to build a business. When I first opened Asterisk Lola just turned one. I worked everyday at Asterisk for a year and a half until I could finally hire staff to cover most shifts. That means I missed literally over a year of my child’s every day life. To clarify, I did have her during the nights and shared her on the weekends with her father, but I missed a lot of the little things. This is a decision I will have to live with for the rest of my life.
The second was I do better alone. I am a natural introvert. As much as I enjoy meeting people and learning about their story, I am happiest when I can be creative either behind my computer or creating a new product. I am much more valuable and productive because my happiness is higher.
And lastly, things change quickly and it is best to embrace them. When I first opened Rosy, I was still a single mom. All I had was my daughter, home and business. This was enough for me, and my heart felt full. But the change that happened was John came back into our lives. He is kind, gentle and strong. We will be married on April 7th, and I couldn’t be more excited. Both of us want to continue to grow our family. I have decided this means more to me than business.
I appreciate each and every opportunity I have. I appreciate even the ability to take risks and jump for goals. If I could leave you with two pieces of advice, it would be this; Do not be afraid of the unknown but ask yourself, “If the absolute worst thing happened, can I live with the consequences?” If the answer is yes, then I do it! And my second piece of advice is, “Choose happiness. Always choose happiness.”